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Why I’ve lost faith in Tony Robbins (and most life coaches)

December, 2009: It was one of the most embarrassing moments of my life – and it happened while I was completely alone. I had just graduated and was trying to start a business. It wasn’t going well, and my confidence was shot to shit. In an attempt to improve myself, I picked up a copyRead More

2017: the year of hell yeah or guilt free no

At the beginning of every year, I choose a new trait to develop in myself. Past traits have included: 2014: learning to make significant investments of time, energy, and money in myself 2015: giving up alcohol for a year (postmortem written in March of 2016 and an update recorded in Nov 2016) 2016: being as honestRead More

2016 personal review: the victories, losses, and lessons

2016 was – by far – the best year of my life. It was also one of the most demanding. This is not a coincidence. To live a truly vivid life, you have to find the courage to step into the arena. Doing so will tax nearly everything you have, but when you do, you’llRead More

How to draw the good out of people (and yourself)

Scene 1: My Lyft driver has a 5-star rating. I assume he’s new. When I get into his car I ask, “How long have you been driving?” He says, “Oh, about six months.” This blew my mind. To have perfect rating for anything after six months is almost unheard of. I say, “You must meetRead More

On finding the strength to get back up

“He not busy being born, is busy dying” – Bob Dylan on “It’s Alright, Ma (I’m Only Bleeding)” – 1 – November 9, 2016 it’s midnight or 2am or something: My apartment is lit by flickering candles. Dylan’s album “Bringing It All Back Home” is playing. Though I rarely drink, I’m pouring myself a stiffRead More

How to make hard conversations easier (and why I had five in one day)

Aug 28th, 2016: My hand shakes as I start dialing S*’s number. I can’t help but notice the irony. I used to give speeches for thousands of people, and my hand never shook then. Now, calling someone I’ve known for years is making me anxious. Today is going to be one of the most emotionallyRead More

Why I won’t vote for a third party this year

Tuesday Nov 2nd, 2004, Florida: The United States government and its leaders disgust me. Over the past four years we’ve spilled the blood of countless innocents, allowed the rich to exploit the poor, and let the media shape public conversation around whatever will sell the most advertisements. I’m sick of this shit. In an act ofRead More