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What happens when you put life ahead of work for a year?

Someone once asked the Dalai Lama what surprised him most about humanity. He replied, “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present, the result being that he doesRead More

How to overcome the need to be a people-pleaser

A confession: I am a recovering people-pleaser. In no particular order, I’ve: Stayed in friendships, business partnerships, and romantic relationships wayyy longer than I should have, resulting in uninspired, sluggish, and deadening relationships Diluted myself in order to be a false peer to people I didn’t even like or respect Offered thousands of dollars inRead More

On relationships, awareness, and compassion

“I have just three things to teach: Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures. Simple in actions and in thoughts, you return to the source of being. Patient with both friends and enemies, you accord with the way things are. Compassionate toward yourself, you reconcile all beings in the world” -Lao Tzu inRead More

My five best pranks

I still remember the first prank ever played on me. It was April Fool’s Day. I was 9 and my brother, Rob, was 6. The whole family was sitting at the dining room table when my Dad said, “Kids, we have a surprise for you… we’re going to DISNEY WORLD!!!!” Rob and I screamed withRead More

Reminders to myself part II: notes for the good times

“The proper response to life is applause” –William Carlos Williams As I write, I find myself in an unfamiliar spot. All of the elements in my life that I really care about? They’re behaving beautifully. Work is going great, my social life is (almost) too much fun, I’m building a relationship with a woman IRead More

What happens when you’re completely honest for a year?

October 2016: M* is upset with me for a good reason. Two reasons, actually. Reason number 1: I’m in town and I didn’t call her to hang out. Over the course of our 12-year friendship, M* has come to visit me countless times. I’ve never visited her. Even so, the lack of balance isn’t whyRead More

Becoming a giver: the most important lesson in a decade

May 2009: I’m 23 and eating breakfast with J*, a man who would go on to be one of the most influential people in my life. J* is teaching me how to build a business. In the middle of explaining a sales technique, he interrupts himself and says, “You know, the real trick to businessRead More