Embracing the void: lessons about pain, confusion, and guidance from a later mentor
My early 20’s were chaotic. I studied abroad in Hong Kong, then dropped out of school, traveled until my money ran out, and started volunteering and working on an international development project in South Africa. When I came home, I was lost. My days were spent sleeping in my parent’s basement, drinking Jack Daniels, andRead More
On the beauty of setting boundaries and drowning out the world
Mexico, Sept 2019, during my first solo trip in 4.5 years: I didn’t think that eating a taco could feel like a divine experience – I mean, most of the time I barely even notice what I’m eating – but right now, this taco is making me believe in God. And no, I’m not high.Read More
When the world won’t stop beating you down
Earlier this year: It was already an impossible week. After 60 hours at work and school, I needed to hop on a red-eye to attend another funeral. To make matters worse, A*, my then girlfriend, and I had a stormy sort of love. Before leaving for the funeral, I made a reservation for us atRead More
A mental model to boost happiness and productivity
“I understand there’s a guy inside me who wants to lay in bed, smoke weed all day, and watch cartoons and old movies. My whole life is a series of stratagems to avoid and outwit that guy.” – Anthony Bourdain These days I’m constantly under the gun. I’m working six-day weeks, and at least onceRead More
Harnessing the fires of anger
Earlier this month during a meditation class, the teacher asked, “What’s holding you back from living with a more open heart?” The answer popped lucidly into my mind, as though it were sitting just beneath the surface waiting for someone to ask. The unexpected answer was as clear as it was uncomfortable: anger. To sayRead More
Finding your path part 2: 7 questions to help you on your way
I’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to create a life worth living. This included learning to love myself, meditation, therapy, and a lot of time and money wasted on personal development and coaches. My most recent step has been learning to find meaningful direction with my career path. For mostRead More
The secrets we don’t share: lessons about pain and belonging from a late mentor
My inner circle isn’t huge – a dozen people give or take. They all seem smarter and more put together than I am. They found careers, got married, bought houses, etc. Me? I returned to school in my 30’s, still rent an apartment, and seem to have a restless soul. There are periods of myRead More
Finding your path part 1: what it’s like to miss the mark
I’ve struggled to find my path in life. Prior to starting this blog, I moved from Washington, DC, to Colorado. I also stopped touring as a speaker, despite unexpected success and a 13 year career in the field. While writing this blog, I opened and quickly closed a leadership coaching practice, opened and continue toRead More