Why following your passions is bad career advice

I used to be one of those annoying guys who urged people to find their passion and encouraged them to turn it into it their job. As far as I could tell, it seemed like an obvious formula for creating a great, profitable life. Unfortunately, I was wrong. I was falling victim to cliché andRead More

Being cool with being normal

I have to confess that for most of my life, I thought I was destined for fame and world-class success. I didn’t think I’d be in the top 1% of my field – I truly thought I would be the undisputed best. As a child magician, I believed I’d be the next Lance Burton orRead More

Why does success feel so empty?

Last week: Z*, who founded a 30 person company, is staying with me for the night. When I show him my apartment, I awkwardly say, “I know people in our circle are supposed to have huge, flashy apartments, but I just have this small little studio.” He says, “What are you talking about, man? HaveRead More

How to affect change in your country (even when things suck)

For many progressives – and conservatives – the past few weeks have been disturbing. First, the President of the United States escalated a cold war with North Korea. Then, he failed to calm the country after a surge of white supremacy. In fact, many feel that he (perhaps unintentionally) stoked the flames. In moments likeRead More

Living in a world where your body is obscene

“If war is holy and sex is obscene, we’ve got it twisted in this lucid dream” -Alicia Keys on “Holy War” – 1 – It’s easy to be compassionate when a loved one is going through a tough time. Without thinking, you offer warmth, empathy, patience, and playfulness. You encourage her to take a bitRead More

How to quit (and why it leads to happiness)

May, 2004: I’ve just stepped off stage from my last magic show ever. It feels… anticlimactic. I imagined that I’d be emotional, but I’m not. It’s as though today’s show held little significance. I didn’t even tell the audience that it was my last show. Though I admit I feel a little guilty. Over theRead More

The hidden agony of men and their mental health

When I turned 30, I decided to focus on my mental health, which included spending six months in therapy. For a while I didn’t tell anyone, not even my inner circle. When I did start telling people I noticed that the men in my life had two types of reactions. While many were supportive, aRead More