Reminders to myself part II: notes for the good times

“The proper response to life is applause” –William Carlos Williams As I write, I find myself in an unfamiliar spot. All of the elements in my life that I really care about? They’re behaving beautifully. Work is going great, my social life is (almost) too much fun, I’m building a relationship with a woman IRead More

What happens when you’re completely honest for a year?

October 2016: M* is upset with me for a good reason. Two reasons, actually. Reason number 1: I’m in town and I didn’t call her to hang out. Over the course of our 12-year friendship, M* has come to visit me countless times. I’ve never visited her. Even so, the lack of balance isn’t whyRead More

Becoming a giver: the most important lesson in a decade

May 2009: I’m 23 and eating breakfast with J*, a man who would go on to be one of the most influential people in my life. J* is teaching me how to build a business. In the middle of explaining a sales technique, he interrupts himself and says, “You know, the real trick to businessRead More

Beautiful imperfection: the path to self-love

Most of us have been subtly trained to resent ourselves for being human. What makes us beautiful rests exclusively in our rough edges and imperfections, yet we are encouraged to polish them away to strive toward “excellence” or “success.” I’ve fallen into this trap a million times. As a child magician I practiced every trickRead More

There is no path: lessons from a monk and a billionaire

April, 2014 at a small conference in Toronto: I know that I’m on the wrong path in life, but I don’t know how I’m supposed to find the right one. One of the speakers at this conference is a Hindu monk who dedicated years of his life to meditation. He seems to have deep insightRead More

Why I’ve lost faith in Tony Robbins (and most life coaches)

December, 2009: It was one of the most embarrassing moments of my life – and it happened while I was completely alone. I had just graduated and was trying to start a business. It wasn’t going well, and my confidence was shot to shit. In an attempt to improve myself, I picked up a copyRead More

2017: the year of hell yeah or guilt free no

At the beginning of every year, I choose a new trait to develop in myself. Past traits have included: 2014: learning to make significant investments of time, energy, and money in myself 2015: giving up alcohol for a year (postmortem written in March of 2016 and an update recorded in Nov 2016) 2016: being as honestRead More