Owning my mistakes: 6 ideas I’ve changed my mind about

Highschool, early 2000’s: P* and I are walking around the neighborhood for the umpteenth time. At one-point P* confessed that he changed his mind about one of his political stances. I criticized him for being hypocritical. P* shrugged his shoulders and said, “Yeah, maybe. But without hypocrisy we can’t really grow.” *** It’s been nearlyRead More

Learning to suffer productively

Buddhists philosophers begin their quest for a good life with a counter-intuitive observation. They notice, simply, that life kinda sucks. They then ask, “So if life sucks, WTF should we do about it?”  Earlier this year I found an amazing answer. Jack Kornfield, one of my meditation teachers, studied with the late Achaan Chah, aRead More

What are the Five Best Moments of Your Life So Far?

Every few years I pause to ask myself, “What are the best five moments of my life?” I love this question. It’s nice to revisit the bright spots, especially when there’s so much darkness in the world. The answers tend to be illuminating too. You might expect that the big moments are also the onesRead More

Mindfulness meditation class recordings (and sign up)

When the pandemic hit I began offering free live-online meditation classes every Monday night through July of 2020.  You can find recordings of these classes and guided meditations below.  Before you dive in, two quick warnings: 1) I am new to teaching. Though I’ve been meditating daily for well over a decade, I only startedRead More

Calling my shot part 2: embracing the grey

In 2016 I wrote a post titled, “Calling my shot.” In it, I committed to valuing authenticity and service over vanity metrics and popularity. At the time I worked as a speaker. Since then I closed several financially successful businesses (more here) and learned to tame my inner demons (see here and here). I wentRead More

Black Lives Matter

This is overdue and I’m ashamed of that. And I acknowledge that I’m not in a position to meaningfully advance the conversation. But still, silence is far worse than tardiness, so I’ll state it plainly: I stand with the people who want to end white supremacy, structural oppression, systemic violence, and the blatant racism thatRead More

Finding mental health during times of uncertainty

There is a brokenness out of which comes the unbroken, a shatteredness out of which blooms the unshatterable.   There is a sorrow beyond all grief which leads to joy, and a fragility out of whose depths emerges strength. There is a hollow space too vast for words through which we pass with each loss, outRead More

I’ve changed (and why I’m taking a few months off from writing)

The short version I’m taking a few months off from writing for this blog. I’ll be back in the spring / summer of 2020. The long version, part 1: I need to dedicate time to projects in the works I finish grad school in May to become a therapist. After that I’ll be launching newRead More